No matter where we dig or climb
we come upon the fire we left untended.
This quote from poet Mark Nepo reminds me of the axiom "wherever you go, there you are." In other words, there is no escaping ourselves as hard as we may try to stay busy, numb ourselves in various ways, distract ourselves or live in a state of denial about what lives in our heart, about what needs tending.
We can try to run from our heart or inner self's knowledge or beckoning, but we always come back to it one way or another. What fire have you left untended? What part of you needs tending? What secret desire, what smoldering passion, what unacknowledged or unfulfilled dream needs attention? Or what sorrow needs attention and release? What untended grief or sadness wants your attention right now?
Peggy Handler, MFT, is a psychotherapist in San Francisco's Noe Valley