The only life that
you could ever be happy in
is the one you actually have.
~ Fred Luskin
How often do you wish you had a different life? How often do you say to yourself or others that you will be happy when.... ( you lose weight, you have a better job, you have more money, you are in better shape, you are in a relationship.....) How often do you compare yourself to others or envy someone else's life, wishing you had a life like theirs, thinking that if you did have their life, THEN you would be happy!
So much time and energy, both mental and emotional, are often spent on wishing for your life to be different than it is, which really translates into a desire to be someone other than who you are. Happiness or contentedness seem elusive in your life while others seem to have it effortlessly. With this mindset, your focus remains outside of yourself, which perpetuates the feelings of unhappiness in and with your life.
A sense of discontent or unhappiness can actually be the doorway into happiness in your life. These feelings and thoughts are actually directing you INWARD, into building a relationship with yourself and your life that is satisfying and compassionate. Because you will never have another life (at least in this incarnation), happiness can only be found in this very life that you have.
If you need help finding happiness in your life, call me for a free phone consultaion to see if I can be helpful to you!
Peggy Handler, MFT, is a psychotherapist in San Francisco's Noe Valley