Great dancers are not great
because of their technique;
they are great because of their passion.
~ Martha Graham
Just as EQ (emotional intelligence) is more important than IQ for a successful and happy life, passion is more important than technical ability in life's endeavors. Passion is that ineffable feeling of intense drive, motivation, or connection with/to something ( or someone). It may feel like a sense of oneness, of rightness, of absolute symmetry or perfect alignment with who you are. When you are doing whatever you are passionate about, you may temporarily lose track of time; the time/space continuum dims as you are truly present and open to a flow of inspiration and one-pointed attention.
What are you passionate about? What takes over and transports you away from your daily concerns, from your wandering mind or swirling emotions? What truly connects you to yourself? What feels like it is truly aligned with your essential self?
The answers to these questions may come readily to some, while to others, passion remains elusive, buried under layers of shoulds, shouldn'ts, fears, self-doubt, and feelings of inadequacy. Can you allow yourself to dream, to imagine, to explore where passion resides within you? Can you allow yourself to journal, to draw, to dance, to work with clay, to look at the sun or stars or moon and explore where passion may burn, like a small flame? Can you begin to fan the glowing ember with your attention and actions into a larger flame?
Can you allow yourself to fully enjoy whatever you are passionate about even when you don't think you are "good" or "good enough" at it?
Peggy Handler, MFT, is a psychotherapist in San Francisco's Noe Valley